Hatred is a Dangerous Feeling

 

I recently overheard a conversation in the street in which someone asked, “How can a person have so much hatred in the heart?” I reflected on this question for a few minutes and decided that I wanted to investigate this emotion a little more. This intense feeling of disgust can be directed towards various objects. Some people hate a person, while others hate animals, ethnic groups, or society. Some people even hate themselves.

The causes of hatred can often be the result of unpleasant situations or unpleasant experiences from the past. Some psychology textbooks define hatred as “a deep and lasting, intense expression of animosity, anger and hostility toward a person, group, or object.” Some professionals say that hatred can be produced by a hidden feeling of fear. Hatred poisons the soul and can lead to loneliness; especially for the hater.  Antipathy, repudiation, and annoyance affect the person who holds onto hatred and has adverse effects on the people around the hater.  Nobody wants to be around someone who radiates hatred and rejection.

Hate crime

Hatred can also lead to disproportionate individual acts, such as a crime. It is important to note that the combination of these two words, hate and crime, often points to behavior motivated by prejudice or resentment toward someone who belongs to a group. This is what the media refers to as a hate crime.  These crimes often take place against members of certain racial, religious, ethnic, political, or sexual minority groups.

Hate in relationships

Many books have been written about hate, and some poets even clearly express it in their poems and literary works. Everyday people also talk about hate. There is a well-known phrase that says, “There is a thin line between love and hate.” This phrase is sometimes mentioned by couples who have problems and misunderstandings.  Fortunately, there are techniques and interventions that can often help resolve a conflict between two people. Professional help can prevent the process by which small disagreements turn into feelings of hate. To achieve a peaceful solution to a problem, some experts advocate the following:

1) Identify the problem, the reason for the conflict, and the details involved.

2) Identify and express the feelings involved. Do not yell at your partner; simply tell him or her how you feel.

3) Express your point of view calmly.

4) Offer solutions, and be receptive to your partner’s solutions.

5) Negotiate a commitment.

6) Learn to recognize when a solution is acceptable. It is important for both parties to lay aside their pride.

7) If you are very upset and cannot control the rage, step aside for a while to think things over.

8) Conflicts must be tackled when both individuals are calm. Learning to resolve conflicts is essential to enjoying a life of harmony. Forgiveness is the perfect tool to fight anger and rage.

If you feel that hatred is taking away peace and tranquility in your life and/or relationships, please seek help.

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